Wednesday, December 30, 2009

Sita in the kitchen:

Sita in the kitchen:
Phyllis K. Herman: The Pativrata and Ramarajya

Behind the famous injunctions to Hindu women, “Be like Sita!” or “Be a Second Sita!” lies the ideal of the perfect wife (pativrata), the ever-devoted and faithful Sita found in the many versions (katha) of the Ramayana. The paradigm of the pativrata most certainly includes the performance of one of the wife’s chief traditional duties: cooking for her husband as well as family, guests, and the gods.

Yet in most of the classical Ramayanas that define the pativrata, the quintessential perfect wife never cooks. To literally be a second Sita, the most the ideal wife would have to do is gather nuts and fruit from the forest.




Why is this wife/goddess who is never in the kitchen commemorated throughout India by kitchen shrines (Sita Rasois)? They exist today in Ayodhya, where it is said that Sita cooked for Dasharatha and his family, and in many places that loosely correspond to where she might have cooked for Rama, Lakshmana, and her twin sons during her times of exile in the forest (vanavas). These shrines commemorating her putative culinary artistry do much more than quaintly concretize a gloss on the textual Ramayanas; they present and represent the banquet of meanings, symbols, and concepts linking the roles of women, wives, and goddesses to the production of ideal kingship, both at home and in exile.

The Sita Rasois of the city and forest are signs of the movable feast associated with Sita: from her flows the bounty that is the foundation for the once and future utopian world of fruitful abundance that is Ramarajya.




Visiting Sita Rasois



In Ayodhya, an elaborate Sita’s Kitchen lies abandoned behind locked gates. Elsewhere in India, however, a number of  Sita’s Kitchens still function as sites of pilgrimage and devotion.

From the many Sita Rasois attested to by ethnographers and listed in the modern compendium of pilgrimage sites known as the Tirthank Kalyan (Second edition, 1995), I chose to visit several along one possible route taken by the forest exiles (vanavasis) Rama, Sita, and Lakshmana.



At least two of Sita’s kitchens have been documented in Ayodhya, but only one survived the demolition of the Babri Masjid in 1992. I found the intact Sita Rasoi within the fenced-off complex on the Ramkot, in the building bearing the painted-on phrase “Janmasthana Sita Rasoi” (Birthplace Sita’s Kitchen).

The Rasoi shrine is in the basement and quite beautiful. It has on the floor three tiles patterned in green, white, and black a concrete-block sitting place; a concrete-and-tile rolling board; and a molded-concrete rolling pin.

Near the back wall is an oven (chulha), and above it is a shrine to Sita. The panda described the Janmasthana as the place where Rama was nurtured and spent most of his childhood, and he said that the kitchen was where Sita cooked her first meal for Rama’s father, Dasharatha (see Herman, 1998).



From Ayodhya, I traveled west to the Bharadvaja Ashram in modern Allahabad (Prayag). Various sources had led me to believe that a Sita Rasoi was there, at the ashram where Valmiki recounts that Rama, Sita, and Lakshmana resided for a short time.

I found what looked like fairly new temples to Shiva and to the goddess Santoshi Mata at the ashram, but the women who ran the temples stated firmly that the Sita Rasoi was in Chitrakut, not in Allahabad.

Nonetheless, they and the pandas I talked to in and around Allahabad all said the same thing about Sita cooking: When Sita was at the Bharadvaja Ashram ‘of course she cooked.’



Continuing towards Chitrakut on the same possible route of the first forest exile, I visited the village of Lalapur, about an hour east of Allahabad. There, at the top of a hill—above a temple (mandir) to a local goddess and adjacent to a Valmiki Ashram, a site from Sita’s second forest exile—are the clearly marked remains of a Sita’s Kitchen. Written on an outcropping of rock directly below the ashram is the phrase “Sita Rasoi” with a white arrow pointing towards the shrine.

Following the arrow, I found a small cave, again labeled Sita's Rasoi in orange paint where, according to the local pandas, Sita cooked for her sons, Kusha and Lava, while at Valmiki’s Ashram. Visible near the cave is an ancient, and now dry, path made by running water, a factor that would have made it a good kitchen place.

The tin sign describing the spot as a Sita Rasoi was lying on the ground, and the shrine itself was neglected. One panda explained that robbers had taken the images (murtis) of Sita, Kusha, and Lava, and therefore the site had lost popularity. Four new murtis of Sita, Kusha, Lava, and Valmiki carved in marble lay nearby, awaiting installation. Once they were in place, the panda said, worship (puja) at the Rasoi and the Ashram would again be popular.



About an hour from Lalapur lies the holy town of Chitrakut. The Chitrakut Mahatmya begins by praising the area: “When in Chitrakut you are on the right path. . . . Looking at what can be found there, no worldly desires will detract you from your aims.” The Mahatmya goes on to give routes for modern pilgrimages in and around Chitrakut.

On the first day, the pilgrim (pujari) should circum-ambulate Kamadgiri Hill. On the second day, the pujari must climb another hill, east of the Kamadgiri, on which is situated the Hanuman Dhara Mandir. This Mandir is about halfway up the steep hill and, after puja there, he should continue to the top, to the Sita Rasoi.

Along the way, the pilgrim should stop at the hill’s many sites commemorating scenes from the Ramayanakatha, including several sets of Rama’s footprints imbedded in the stones.


At the very top of the hill, commanding an incredible view of the Mandakini River and the land below, is the Sita Rasoi complex.

At its entry is a life-size statue of Tulsidas and more footprints left by Rama. The signs instruct the pilgrim to have darshan of Rama’s footprints and then proceed to the cottage that is the Sita Rasoi.

This small structure, which is built of stone and painted white, commemorates Sita’s cooking for Rama and Lakshmana, at Chitrakut, during the first vanavas.  At the shrine’s entrance are what looks like a grinding stone and a board for rolling dough. Within the shrine is a rolling pin and, built into the back wall, a  chulha.

On the wall above this flower-laden chulha is graffiti referring to the “mother of children” and “fruits of [or in] this kitchen (chaukasthan)” — that is, although this Sita Rasoi marks a spot from the first vanavas, the graffiti references motherhood as well as cooking. Across from the Rasoi is another structure, a shrine dedicated to Sita and Rama, in which the emphasis is again on Sita.

Her murti is gloriously arrayed, and women’s bangle bracelets hang from the walls to form a sort of a frame above and around this image.



Departing from the route of the first forest exile, I went north from Chitrakut to Brahmavarta, near Bithur, Uttar Pradesh, where I knew there to be a Sita’s Kitchen yet again located in a Valmiki Ashram, where Sita gave birth and raised Kusha and Lava during her second vanavas.

I had seen pictures of this Sita’s Kitchen that had been taken in the 1980s, but when I arrived in 2000, I found that the complex had been renovated.

The landmarks of the Ramayanakatha remained the same, of course: ‘‘There,’’ the visitor will be told, ‘‘Is where Sita gave birth; over there is the garden where the twins kept the horse they stole from Rama’s Ashvamedha; that is where Sita entered the underworld—and here, at the center of this Valmiki Ashram, is where Sita cooked for Kusha and Lava.’’



The kitchen shrine is a small free-standing structure, newly painted white and designated with a plaque, rather than the painted-on label of the 1980s. The front aperture, where offerings are placed, frames a large bell that hangs from the center of the shrine’s ceiling.

While the bell was not in the photographs from the 1980s, and a third shelf had been added within the shrine’s niche, apparently to accommodate utensils along with the murti of Sita and the chulha, the building itself seems unchanged.


On the top shelf in the niche Sita presides in the same place as in the 1980s, although her murti now appears much fresher and newer. The chulha on the bottom shelf is likewise the same, except that it had received a coat of white paint. Many of the utensils that a good cook needs are placed around Sita and on the shelves below: along with the chulha, I could identify a long-handled wooden instrument possibly used for stoking the fire, a grinding stone, leaves, a rolling pin, and a rolling board.

This Sita Rasoi has more kitchen utensils than the others I visited, and, surprisingly, they are modern and functional. Also in this Sita’s Kitchen are implements found in traditional temple settings: a flywhisk of peacock feathers, folded cloths, a fan, a shell, a coconut, and some dishes. A few bangle offerings—like those at Chitrakut—decorate the wall around the niche. Intrinsic to the Sita Rasoi in Brahmavarta seems to be a particularly strong sense of the conflation of sacred space and domestic (kitchen) space. Indeed, the panda mentioned that on occasions such as Ramnavami and Shivaratri, pandas ­­‘cooked’ in it, that is, they stood in the Sita Rasoi and handed out prashad to pilgrims.


Discovering Sita’s Sansar


Far to the south of this Valmiki Ashram in Uttar Pradesh, lies another geography filled with locales from the Ramayanakatha: the city of Nasik, in Maharashtra. The Tirthank Kalyan has Rama, Sita, and Lakshmana living in the forests of Panchavati and Tapovan, and it is from this general area that Ravana kidnapped Sita. 



I went to Nasik following reports of a Sita’s Kitchen within a cave in Panchavati.  Beneath the shade of five banyan trees is indeed a cave dedicated to Sita (the sign reads “Sita Gumpha” [sic], but in the tripartite cave where the kitchen shrine was supposed to be, I found only two square stones, empty wall niches whose red stains marked a history of worship, and a Shivalingam.

This cave, according to the staff on hand, was where Rama and Lakshmana hid Sita while they went on their forest adventures; in their absence, she occupied her time, they said, by meditating on Shiva.






It was difficult to see evidence of a kitchen shrine in the cave, but the staff informed me that the Sita Rasoi was across the street. The building across from the cave carries a sign advertising it as “Sita‘s World [Sita Sansara] . . . the place where Maricha was killed and where the abduction of Sita took place.” 


Inside, waist-high partitions create a central aisle with a room to either side. The room to the left (with your back to the entrance) features a life-size plaster Rama shooting Maricha, the golden deer. Above these statues hang plaster ornaments representing watermelons, bananas, pome granates, and other fruit. Dense greenery and birds are painted on the wall behind Rama and Maricha, simulating the forest.


The room to the right of the entrance was not the sort of Sita Rasoi shrine I had come to expect for it contained a depiction of a ‘Sita’s World’ that consisted almost entirely of her cooking! Four life-size statues of Sita are displayed along the sides of the room. In different saris and ornaments, Sita uses a grinding rod, fetches water, kneads dough, and rolls dough with a rolling pin while chapatis bake on a chulha. In the center of the room, a fifth life-size Sita stands holding a dish full of food within Lakshmana’s protective magic circle.



Across from her is a gigantic statue of Ravana in the guise of a holy man (muni); he has a huge bowl in his hand, which  is stretched toward Sita. This is the instant before Sita crosses the line. This diorama of Sita and her food preparations includes an alcove in the back wall. Hanging from the ceiling above the alcove is more plaster fruit, and the alcove itself is flanked by nearly life-size figures of Valmiki and Tulsidas. Between these figures are a picture of Rama with Hanuman and Lakshmana and a small statue of a cow and its nursing calf.



Ensconced within the alcove is a textual conundrum—the twin sons of Rama and Sita, comfortably posed on a bed, watch with great enjoyment the two crucial (and simultaneous) scenes from their parents’ past unfold before them —Sita with Ravana, and, beyond that tableau, Rama chasing Maricha deep in the forest.



While not a kitchen shrine (although there is evidence of puja there), Sita’s World is another articulation of the theology that put Sita in the kitchen. It explicitly portrays the activities imagined in the Sita Rasois in Ayodhya, Lalapur, Chitrakut, Bithur, and elsewhere. Moreover, in its emphasis on the pativrata as perfect hostess to Ravana and as mother of the future heirs of Ramarajya, it focuses our attention on the forest exiles and specifically on Sita cooking in the forest. In the popular imagination, it is a Sita who cooks, who offers Ravana food during the first vanavas, and nurtures her sons into adolescence during the second.


The Sita Rasois and Sita’s World commemorate Sita, whose textual forest adventures may appear to be recountings merely of passive victimhood, as a powerful agent who even in the forest—the space antithetical to the ploughed furrow, the cooked offering and civilized living—can almost alchemically process the fruits of the land (and her womb) into the abundance and fertility that so characterizes the ideal of Ramarajya.



Cooking in the Forest


In the Valmiki Ramayana, according to Thomas Parkhill (1997: 199), “The forest ‘processes’ him [Rama] from heroic ‘raw material’ into a warrior of mythic stature already beginning to realize his dharma as the sacralized king of the whole world.” Of what does this processing consist?



While Ramarajya is finally centered in the bustling city-state Ayodhya, from which it radiates outward to the world at large, its foundation is constructed in exile in the forest. As Nancy Falk (1973: 1) points out, “It appears that the king had to have some kind of transaction with the wilderness . . . to acquire or hold his kingship.”



For Ramarajya, the model that survives to this day as the ultimate Hindu paradigm for perfect rule, the transactions between Rama and the forest are vital. The relationship between the future ideal king, Rama, and the wilderness has very obvious aspects. As a youth learning martial skills and later, in his first years of exile, he acts as a protector of ascetics by conquering the very symbols of the wild, the threatening and powerful Rakshasas.

But Rama, Lakshmana, and especially Sita spend the majority of their textual epic time in the forest, and it is in the vast (now almost gone) wilderness that popular commemorations of their itinerary abound.



The forest/wilderness as opposed to village/ploughed field is an ancient juxtaposition in India, and the implications of the dichotomy between the two spaces continued to suffuse matters of great importance such as sacrifice, renunciation, and salvation. Charles Malamoud (1996: 75) characterizes this persistent dichotomy of aranya/vana and grama/kshetra as a description of the entirety of the inhabitable world—either forest or village,  or both, evoked every possible setting in which human activity could, or would, occur in this world.

In all periods of Indian religious history, the forest is described as the quintessential place of solitude and salvation, on the one hand, and as the space of exile, great danger, and chaos, on the other. The forest holds the horrible Rakshasas and unimaginable peril. It also abounds with ashrams, the hermitages where one can lead a life of dharmaranya, of perfect solitude and perfect austerity. Moreover, even for the citizens of the village, the forest can be a source for “the renewal of life, of unmitigated, direct access to the divine, less hampered by rituals and by social divisions” (G. D. Sontheimer, in Tripathi & Kulke 1994: 127). 



In Maharashtra, for example, inhabitants used to leave the village limits for a period of days and “would return with assurance of greater crops, less illness and, in general greater well-being” (ibid.). The forest can be, in other words, a source as fertile as the ploughed field.


For the future king of Ayodhya, the forest is the space for wondrous (re)birth and renewal: Sita’s Kitchens function as modern aniconic and iconic expression of the source, gestation, ripening, and maturation of Ramarajya.
 

Sita, the embodiment of “ploughed land,” is depicted in the Sita Rasois and Sita’s World as domesticating the forest by the ritual of cooking in her kitchens. 


It is she who transforms the forest into a fertile source for kingship. It is she, wife and mistress of the kitchen, who must offer food to Ravana, thereby causing the major events of the Ramayana to take place. The connections between cooking and female fertility—the perfect wife as increaser—is made concrete in the numerous Rasoi shrines dedicated to her.

In Ayodhya, she begins her career in the urban kitchen of the Janmasthana. In the forest kitchens, she fulfills her promise as a truly great chef feeding and increasing the Raghava line.



There is a clear delineation in the Ramayana between life in Ayodhya and life as it will be lived in the forest. In his attempt to dissuade Sita from accompanying him, Rama says to her, “The forest is never a place of pleasure—I know—It only is pain” (VR 2.25.5 [trans. Pollock, Princeton University Press, 1986]).

He goes on to list all the miseries and dangers—sleeping on the ground, uncertain weather, the troublesome creatures ranging from worms to lions, and intractable vegetation: thorn trees, grass, tangles of branches. But at the beginning of the first exile, the wise woman Anasuya instructs Sita that the distinction between the two spaces should not alter her behavior: “A woman who holds her husband dear—whether he is in the city or in the forest, whether he is good or evil—gains worlds that bring great blessings” (VR 2.109.23).

If we see the forest exiles of Rama and Sita as the very foundation of ideal kingship, then the kitchens of Sita and their contents and connotations begin to have a wider context.




Cooking in the Shrine


Although the kitchen shrines that dot the landscape of India seem to be of relatively modern origin, they evoke the very long and complex history of religion and food preparation in Hinduism. In an article on Sita’s Kitchen in Ayodhya, I have outlined the long history of Sita and her Vedic/Brahmanic associations (Herman 1998).

Sita as cook and her Rasois in Ayodhya and in the forest are linked to the long and often esoteric history of Sita as furrow/goddess. 

While the Vedic, Upanishadic, and even textual epic congruencies between Sita and Brahmanic goddesses such as Viraj, Shri, and Lakshmi may not be a significant part of popular knowledge, hers is certainly a genealogy of goddesses whose function was the release of fertility in association with a royal male consort. The Rama and Sita of the Valmiki Ramayana evoke many ancient intersecting ideas about food, wives, goddesses, ideal kingship, and its necessary conjunction with feminine power. Clear as these ancient correspondences are textually, it is very unlikely that they are the sole impulse behind the advent of Sita Rasois and Sita’s World in modern India. Although the Valmiki Ramayana is tied to the ancient texts and their patterns of meanings, it is also inseparable from contemporary ideas of popular religiosity.


The Sita Rasois in Ayodhya and in the forest are unquestionably manifestations of the locative aspect of popular devotionalism, a distinguishing feature of the shift in emphasis from Brahmanic ritual to bhakti. They also re-present the long alliance between food and religion in India. As R. S. Khare (1992: 16, 27) has observed, “Food does not merely symbolize. . . .
 

It just is one of the self-evident truths on which the Hindu world rests. . . . India provides us with virtually an inexhaustible repository of instances where food loads itself with mundane and profound meanings.” The bhakti movement adopted and sanctified the sacred functions of food, changing Hindu gastronomy by locating the divine in this age and in this world. Devotees began to house and care for the divine in their homes as well as in temple shrines.



Kitchen as Shrine


The functions of the home and hearth/kitchen have long intersected with ideas of sacrifice and devotional offerings to gods and goddesses. The kitchen area (rasoi) of the modern Hindu home has nearly the same status as the worshipping place; the two spaces are governed by similar rules of ritual purity and are situated close to one another. The cooking area is where the generation and application of fire and heat from the chulha effects radical changes in substances, externally and internally. It is where the raw becomes the cooked, the indigestible is made digestible, the profane transforms into the sacred. In some instances, as A. K. Ramanujan (in R. S. Khare 1992: 234) explains, “the customary difference between home foods and temple foods is collapsed: home food is referred to in terms appropriate to the temple.”



Likewise, the commonplace utensils found in rasois are charged with religious meaning. Michael W. Meister (1995: 16) notes that “Objects of use are objects of thought. . . . The pot that cooks the rice can contain the deity. . . . The image that gives human form to a god is no less of an implement than the spoon.” “Implements of household activity,” he continues, “may be used for ritual cooking and presentation as much as for home use” (ibid., 18).  


Grinding stone, rolling pin, rolling board, strainer, mortar and pestle, spoon, ladle, and water container—any of these can signify the act of cooking, both for humans and for the gods. 


Unsurprisingly, some kitchen/ritual utensils have powerful connections to human and divine sexuality and prosperity. The mortar and pestle and the grinding stone, for example, may figure as ritual elements in marriage ceremonies.



Hindu women are in charge of food, the areas of its preparation, and the related utensils in the domestic space; in the temples, Brahmins take on this role. “Whereas the priest presides in the temple, the women preside in the home, where they perform most religious and social rituals without the mediation of a priest. . . .
 

The household rituals that women perform derive their authority from their marital status and fertility” (Ghosh, in Meister 1995: 21). Pika Ghosh goes on to describe the conflation of wife with Brahmin, noting similarities in purificatory rituals and mantra recitation, and Lina Fruzzetti (1982: 69) observes that “women and the Brahmin priests are ritualists in different contexts, but they are the ones who deal with the most highly charged substances and elements in Indian theology, food and fire.”



An important aspect of the ritual resemblance between women/wives and Brahmins is their use of fire (agni), and especially their manipulation of heat (tapas) as both process and product. In the history of ritual, the Vedic tradition presents over and over the multivalent power of Agni, and there are several accounts of the world coming into being through tapas: the world was “cooked” until it was done (Aitareya Brahmana 5.32). For the ascetic (tapasvin), tapas can transform body, spirit, and the state of the world; the Mahabharata, for example, tells of tapas-laden ascetics who are able to generate rain and fertility (Kaelber 1989: 18–19). The term tapas can also be used for the natural heat associated with the reproductive process: after sexual heat has produced an embryo, the heat of the mother’s body “incubates” the baby to term. 


Because both Brahmins and women have access to this complex of esoteric meanings for tapas, each can be seen as a reservoir of fertility (see Atharva Veda 11.5.12).


But the connections between women and ritual in the Vedic material are not limited or defined by the concordances between their uses of heat. One of the major requirements to be a Brahmanic sacrificer (yajamana) is that the man has a wife. The Shatapatha Brahmana and the Taittirya Brahmana make this necessity perfectly clear: “a ritual without a wife is not a ritual” (TB 2.2.2.6; see also ShB 1.3.1.12). After examining several “thematic roles” for the wife in the Vedic rituals, Stephanie W. Jamison (1996: 53) concludes, “One of the wife’s most important roles is that of injecting sexuality into the perfect, ordered world of the ritual. . . . 


One of the abiding concerns of all Vedic rituals, no matter what else they are directed toward, is fertility, the increase of prosperity through the generation of offspring and cattle, and the assurance of good pasturage and crops through abundant rain.”



Likewise, in the domestic sphere fertility and food are of abiding concern, never more so than in the presence of a (male) guest. Jamison puts into historical perspective the wife’s (still) indispensable role in negotiating the difficulties of hospitality and exchange in the home; she illustrates the “anxieties of hospitality” using examples from epic narratives ranging from Ahalya to Oghavati. The perfect wife must conduct herself in accordance with the rules of hospitality, even when she herself becomes the object of the guest’s demand. 


The texts make so many overlapping connections between wives, food, sex (fertility), and hospitality that their implications are difficult to summarize. Essentially, the wife is depicted as the giver of food and as the ultimate exchange token; because the body of the perfect hostess is (theoretically) available to the guest, she herself is the very embodiment of food. This is why the diorama in Sita’s World is so evocative: Sita offers Ravana food  but Ravana, recognizing the metaphorical parity between food and hostess, takes the hostess. He removes her both from her kitchen and from the forest in an attempt to accrue her fertility to his realm. Only after she returns first to Rama and later, during the second exile, to the forest is her full productive capacity and the foundational role of both the forest and the kitchen realized. After Sita and Rama have together inaugurated Ramarajya, Sita is abandoned in the forest where she births twin boys.
 

She nurtures them until they are old enough to be presented as the heirs to Ramarajya, and thus the hope for its continuance and renewal into the next generation.



Conclusion


That Sita has a kitchen/kitchens is interesting in itself. Sita as a cook is not a role conferred on her by Valmiki, Tulsidas, or any of the regional Ramayanas—or by most of the other texts that have come down to us. Nevertheless, and despite the lacuna in the written record, according to R. S. Khare (1976: 52), Sita has long held a place as an adept in culinary practice. Nabaneeta Dev Sen (1998: 23) recounts, for instance, a modern Telegu song wherein Sita, just rescued from Lanka, is on her way back to Rama. Pointing to a stone, she says to Hanuman: “What a lovely grinding stone that will make. I would love to take it back to Ayodhya.” Usha Nilsson (unpublished paper, Sita Symposium, Columbia University, May 1998) describes a Sita Lila wherein Sita not only shops for food but also finds a way to magically cook an impossible meal for Lakshmana. In the popular imagination, it would seem that a pativrata as excellent as Sita must have cooked it.


As seen through the prism of modern feminism, it appears that Sita simply jumps from the kitchen into the test of fire and back again, that she only fulfills a very narrow definition of the perfect traditional  Hindu wife. But the relatively recent Sita Rasois of the (now almost vanished) forest demonstrate that the Sita of the Ramayanakatha  has a more cosmic dimension. They suggest that the power of Sita can be expressed in, but not confined to, the kitchen and her fertility is not fully defined by her name and its connotations of agricultural abundance. Her kitchen is also a shrine, the pativrata is also a goddess, the cook is also one of the co-founders of Ramarajya, the female agent who together with Rama produced the unending feast that was Ramarajya.   


Phyllis K. Herman:
Manushi, Issue 120

The author is an Assistant Professor in the Department of Religious Studies at California State University, Northridge, USA. The author would like to thank the Dharam Hinduja Research Center at Columbia University and its then director, Dr. Mary McGee, for the invitation to present a paper on Sita’s Kitchen in Ayodhya at the Sita Symposium, May 1998. She is also grateful to Abha Jha in Delhi and Michelle Bonnice in Los Angeles for their help in researching and preparing this article.
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Change




Many says, I want change
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Changes


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We sometimes say we need a change,
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One Inch Tall

                        One Inch Tall




If you were only one inch tall,
you'd ride a worm to school.
The teardrop of a crying ant
would be your swimming pool.

A crumb of cake would be a feast
And last you seven days at least,
A flea would be a frightening beast
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you'd just have to hug her thumb.

You'd run from people's feet in fright,
To move a pen would take all night,
(This poem took fourteen years to write--
'Cause I'm just one inch tall).

Shel Silverstein

The Big City and Us

The Big City and Us

by Breanna
(Powder Springs, GA, United States)


Annie was at her best friend Charlotte’s house and had nothing to do. It was too blistering hot to go outside, but inside, they were both bored to tears. The glowing sun shone through the window and bounced off Charlotte’s charm bracelet as millions of glittering rays danced on the walls. Both of them sat on the couch, chins in the palm of their hand, eyes deep in thought.

“I know!” Charlotte exclaimed. “We could look at my parents’ old yearbooks and make fun of everyone’s clothes and hair. I know it’s not the best idea, but its something.”

Annie shrugged. “It’s the best idea either of us have had yet.”

They skipped down the stairs to Charlotte’s parents’ library. “Here they are.” Charlotte pointed to a row of dated-looking yearbooks on a shelf near the top. Annie stood on her tiptoes to select the book she wanted. As she was about to grab a 1982 yearbook, a big leather book with gold writing on the bind caught her eye. She removed it from the shelf and looked at the cover.

It read Atlanta at the top and the rest was decorated with pictures of skyscrapers, peaches, and Coca-Cola bottles. “Hey, what is this?” Annie asked Charlotte. Charlotte glanced at the cover. “Oh, that’s some book my parents got last year after they visited Atlanta. There’ a bunch of cool pictures in there. You can look at it if you want.”

Annie opened the book. “Hey, did you know Atlanta is the location of The Coca-Cola headquarters and the world’s largest aquarium? Doesn’t that sound fun?” Charlotte looked up. “You know what? We should go!”

Annie raised her eyebrows. “To Atlanta? Our parent would KILL us. You know that. And we’re only fifteen. We can’t drive.”
Charlotte smiled. “But I know someone who can.” They looked into each other’s eyes. “Beth!” They said in unison. Beth was Charlotte’s older sister, and loved adventure. They both knew Beth would be willing to take them. After all, they had enough money for gas and anything else they wanted.

“That’s a great idea!” Beth exclaimed after hearing their idea. “I’ve never been to the city before. And we don’t live too far away. Just escaping this rural farm for a few hours is exactly what I need.”

“So you’ll do it?” Annie smiled. She and Charlotte shrieked with delight.
Beth smiled and nodded a positive. “Let’s go!”
After driving for a few hours, the threesome arrived. “We have tons of money, a tank of gas and a map. What should we do first?”
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After an afternoon of city life, they drove home with big smiles on each of their faces. Their taste of life in the city was nice, but it was refreshing to be home. That night, as Annie drifted off to sleep, she realized everything she needed was right here- at home sweet home.

The Silver Box

The Silver Box

by Jake Balvin
(Lodi, NJ, USA)

In the town of Lodi, there lived a brother and sister named Max and Rose. One day they found a silver box on the sidewalk. When they picked it up, the box talked to them. The box said, "if you open me, you will find riches beyond your dreams."


So Max and Rose tried to open it. Unfortunately, they didn't have the key to open it. Max and Rose looked everywhere in their town for it. Then they looked everywhere under their town.


After that the box gave them a hint. It said, "the key is where you read and study." Max and Rose thought and thought until they knew where the key was. It was in one of their text books. They went to Max's math textbook first and found the key.


The silver key said that they had to solve a riddle. The riddle was, "I am at every zoo, but I can leave when I want." So Max and Rose thought and thought until they knew the answer. Max said, "it is a bird." He was correct, so the box opened with the key and there was a billion dollars inside. Max and Ruby were rich!

Tuesday, December 29, 2009

Curiosity of the Dead Music

Curiosity of the Dead Music

by Doodle

When life takes away something you never had, what do you do? How do you know it was taken away? Easy, you borrow the feeling from someone else. You probably borrow fear from scary stories and love from romances. Maybe you lack adventure and then you watch it on an action movie.

Well, what about happiness? How can anyone really display happiness? How can you attempt to explain first love? Mostly, how can you try to mention the craving we all feel when we have a choice to be safe, or to feed our curiosity. We rarely ever choose safety. Look at rock climbers and sky divers.

Now look with me to a young girl who wants to satisfy her curiosity about death. Why should I not jump? Why should I ignore my craving to go to that beautiful music at the very bottom of the cliff? The sweet music that only I can hear! My friends can't hear the music so they don't understand my craving to hear the words better. My need to see the person playing it. Maybe the thing playing it... I really don't care!

I needed to hear it better! One little jump and I would be able to hear the rhythm perfectly! One little step... wow! Each note is a little fairy dancing around my head! Dancing and well... pulling me. All of a sudden I was panicking! I was being dragged down to the music, but know it wasn't sweet! It was the song only meant to be heard by the dead! The dead who had never given up on life! The music was overbearingly sweet, but had a hint of a hatred, like a master musician who hates the instrument.

The little fairies were now not just a simile. They were now not even fairies anymore. They were ghosts. Grabbing on to me like they had a substance other than a cloud like mist. Like they could reach in and drag me out of my body! So they could have it. So they could feel happy and feel all there emotions... well besides misery, they always felt that.

"Let me go!" I yelled, even though they weren't technically touching me. One of the ghosts looked at me and seemed to say with its eyes, "why would you let go of life? Why something so important? Does it matter that we don't let go of hope?" the canyon was coming closer now.

"Hello," said a rough scratchy man's voice. "Welcome to the other side." He was very calm. He was holding his hand out and I took it. It was cold, not the cold of someone who just came in from a snow storm, a cold of someone who never felt warmth. A cold of the dead.

"Curiosity is very powerful, you people think you control everything." He said more to himself. "too bad you let it control you."

"CURIOSITY KILLED THE CAT"

Snap out of that bad mood!

Snap out of that bad mood!

When children get into bad moods they often don't know why. No surprise. I'm not talking about tantrums, but more about being downright grumpy. This also happens to adults too.

Anyway, when a little boy is bugged, he may be seen with folded arms and a scowl on his face. His eyes are pointed downward, and he turns from having to look at you.
 
A little girl's frustration comes in the form of hands on hips and foot stomping, but she will look at you. Sound familiar? Happens a lot.

So what can you do to get them to snap out of the mood they're in. You know that saying 'Snap out of it' won't do it, and shaming them out of it is ridiculous. And surely making them see the futility of it all is useless. No, it can actually be a little easier to release hostility than that.

Who are they angry at? Themselves? No way. It's you! For whatever reason, big or small, the child is ticked off at you. So first we must understand this aspect and then we can approach the situation a little differently. Children also have fairly short memories, so if it all takes some time, it may work out anyway.

OK, you recognize that pushing them your way won't do it, nor will pleading them to be happier because of some unrelated reason. No, providing you're not a totally selfish parent, take the blame, it won't hurt... much. Be understanding and agreeable. Tell them you know why they are upset and state what it is. If you don't pick the right one the first time, try another. Your mistake will go unnoticed.

With the right eye contact, some kinder words and a little humility you should be able to correct the bad behaviour in short order.
 

Let this provocative parent know how it all works out.
You might also want to check out this e-book called Child Anger Management for Parents.

Lord save us - they are our future...

Lord save us - they are our future...

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A small set of exam replies from children who *really* should know better!


These are from test papers and essays submitted to science and health teachers by junior high, high school, and college students around the world. It is truly astonishing what weird science our young scholars can create under the pressures of time and grades.
 

"When you breath, you inspire. When you do not breath, you expire."
"H2O is hot water, and CO2 is cold water"
"To collect fumes of sulphur, hold a deacon over a flame in a test tube"
"When you smell an oderless gas, it is probably carbon monoxide"
"Nitrogen is not found in Ireland because it is not found in a free state"
"Water is composed of two gins, Oxygin and Hydrogin. Oxygin is pure gin. Hydrogin is gin and water."
 

"Three kinds of blood vessels are arteries, vanes and caterpillars."
"Blood flows down one leg and up the other."
"Respiration is composed of two acts, first inspiration, and then expectoration."
"The moon is a planet just like the earth, only it is even deader."
"Artificial insemination is when the farmer does it to the cow instead of the bull."
"Dew is formed on leaves when the sun shines down on them and makes them perspire."
"A super-saturated solution is one that holds more than it can hold."
"Mushrooms always grow in damp places and so they look like umbrellas."
"The body consists of three parts- the brainium, the borax and the abominable cavity. The brainium contains the brain, the borax contains the heart and lungs, and the abominable cavity contains the bowls, of which there are five - a, e, i, o, and u."
"The pistol of a flower is its only protections agenst insects."
"The alimentary canal is located in the northern part of Indiana."
"The skeleton is what is left after the insides have been taken out and the outsides have ben taken off. The purpose of the skeleton is something to hitch meat to."
"A permanent set of teeth consists of eight canines, eight cuspids, two molars, and eight cuspidors."
 

"The tides are a fight between the Earth and moon. All water tends towards the moon, because there is no water in the moon, and nature abhors a vacuum. I forget where the sun joins in this fight."
 

"A fossil is an extinct animal. The older it is, the more extinct it is."
"Many women believe that an alcoholic binge will have no ill effects on the unborn fetus, but that is a large misconception."
 

"Equator: A managerie lion running around the Earth through Africa."
"Germinate: To become a naturalized German."

Childrens funny stories

Childrens funny stories
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1. A kindergarten pupil told his teacher he'd found a cat, but it was dead. "How do you know that the cat was dead?" she asked her pupil. "Because I pissed in its ear and it didn't move," answered the child innocently.
"You did WHAT ? ! ?" the teacher exclaimed in surprise. "You know,"explained the boy, "I leaned over and went 'Pssst!' and it didn't move."


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2. A small boy is sent to bed by his father. Five minutes later....."Da-ad...."
"What?"
"I'm thirsty. Can you bring drink of water?"
"No, You had your chance. Lights out."
Five minutes later: "Da-aaaad....."
"WHAT?"
"I'm THIRSTY. Can I have a drink of water??"
I told you NO! If you ask again, I'll have to spank you!!"
Five minutes later......"Daaaa-aaaad....."
"WHAT!"
"When you come in to spank me, can you bring a drink of water?"



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3. An exasperated mother, whose son was always getting into mischief, finally asked him "How do you expect to get into Heaven?"


The boy thought it over and said, "Well, I'll run in and out and in and out and keep slamming the door until St. Peter says, 'For Heaven's sake, Dylan, come in or stay out!'"


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4. One summer evening during a violent thunderstorm a mother was tucking her son into bed. She was about to turn off the light when he asked with a tremor in his voice "Mommy, will you sleep with me tonight?" The mother smiled and gave him a reassuring hug. "I can't dear," she said. "I have to sleep in Daddy's room." A long silence was broken at last by his shaky little voice: "The big sissy."


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5. It was that time, during the Sunday morning service, for the children's sermon. All the children were invited to come  forward. One little girl was wearing a particularly pretty dress and, as she sat down, the pastor leaned over and said, "That is a very pretty dress. Is it your Easter Dress?" The little girl replied, directly into the pastor's clip-on microphone, "Yes, and my Mom says it's a bitch to iron."


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6 When I was six months pregnant with my third child, my three year old came into the room when I was just getting ready to get into the shower. She said, "Mommy, you are getting fat!" I replied, "Yes, honey, remember Mommy has a baby growing in her tummy." "I know," she replied, but what's growing in your butt?"


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7 A little boy was doing his math homework. He said to himself, "Two plus five, that son of a bitch is seven. Three plus six, that son of a bitch is nine...." His mother heard what he was saying and gasped, "What are you doing?" The little boy answered, "I'm doing my math homework, Mom." "And this is how your teacher taught you to do it?" the mother asked. "Yes," he answered. Infuriated, the mother asked the teacher the next day, "What are you teaching my son in math?" The teacher replied, "Right now, we are learning addition." The mother asked, "And are you teaching them to say two plus two, that son of a bitch is four?" After the teacher stopped laughing, she answered, "What I taught them was, two plus two, THE SUM OF WhICH, is four."


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8. One day the first grade teacher was reading the story of Chicken Little to her class. She came to the part of the story where Chicken Little tried to warn the farmer. She read, ".... and so Chicken Little went up to the farmer and said, "The sky is falling, the sky is falling!" The teacher paused then asked the class, "And what do you think that farmer said?" One little girl raised her hand and said, "I think he said: 'Holy Shit! A talking chicken!'" THe teacher was unable to teach for the next 10 minutes.


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9. A certain little girl, when asked her name, would reply, "I'm Mr. Sugarbrown's daughter." Her mother told her this was wrong, she must say, "I'm Jane Sugarbrown." The Vicar spoke to her in Sunday School, and said, "Aren't you Mr. Sugarbrown's daughter?" She replied, "I thought I was, but mother says I'm not."


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10 A little girl asked her mother, "Can I go outside and play with the boys? Her mother replied, "No, you can't play with the boys, they're too rough." The little girl thought about it for a few moments and asked, "If I can find a smooth one, can I play with him?"

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Little Angel and her Gift


One Christmas, a long time ago, Santa Claus was getting ready for his annual trip; but there were problems …… everywhere.

Four of his elves were away sick and the trainee elves did not produce the toys as fast as the regular ones. So, Santa was beginning to feel the pressure of being behind schedule.
Then, Mrs. Claus popped in to tell Santa that her mother was coming to stay for Christmas; which stressed him even more.

After a while, he went to harness the reindeer, he found that three of them were about to give birth and two had jumped the fence and run away, heaven knows where to.

Then, when he began to load the sleigh one of the boards broke and several large toy-bags fell to the ground, scattering their contents all over the place. Needless to say, Santa was not in the best of moods.

Suddenly, the doorbell rang and he went to the door expecting another problem. But when he opened it, there was a little angel with a great big Christmas tree that she had brought especially to cheer him up.

The angel greeted him very cheerfully, “Merry Christmas Santa Claus. Isn’t it just a wonderful day? I have a beautiful tree for you. See, isn’t it just the loveliest Christmas tree you’ve ever seen? Where would you like me to put it?”

Thus began the tradition of the little angel on top of the Christmas tree

- taken from http://www.richardpettinger.com

Monday, December 28, 2009

The Christmas Cloud Named Hankie

The Christmas Cloud Named Hankie


Story written by Carol Ann Garretson

“It has never been this cold,” said the wise old turtle. The rabbit agreed, the squirrel agreed, and so did all the birds. They were all looking up because Christmas day was getting closer. The sky held only one cloud today. The forest animals named it the universal hankie because it was so large with no breaks.

Hankie did not realize it had been named and now looked below at its subjects. He realized nature placed animals in the forest for the humans to learn from their ways. Animals needed food, shelter, and a safe place to live just like humans. Since the animals named Hankie, what made him so special? Well, Hankie could be bright, get real dark and rain, or just decide to mesh with the sky and look blue. Bright meant a sunny day, dark would bring rain water for parched land, and blue was clear to all that good weather was indeed a gift.

When Hankie covered the forest with crystal white snow, the sky looked like a salt shaker spilling its contents. After the snow falls you can walk outside and see your footsteps, use your sled and have fun sliding down a hill, or even make an angel in the snow by moving your arms and legs until a snow angel appeared. The animals looked forward to snow as they would chase each other around the trees.

The animals watched as Hankie seemed to disappear. Now, they went about their tasks collecting food. Rabbits had stored carrots for the Christmas feast, squirrels saved their choice nuts, and the birds brought out their premium seeds used only for such joyous times. The Christmas committee found an abandoned house near a windmill for their celebration. All the families were delighted.

Hankie became visible as it looked at them all. Each one was counted and lived on the third planet. Both animals and humans were expected to make the world better. Then it happened, the snow started to fall. The sky did indeed look like the biggest salt shaker above their heads. Animals were happy and so were all the people and especially the children. It would indeed be a wonderful Christmas for people and animals alike.

Hankie wants me to tell you he has much responsibility being so far above us. He sees both the good and the bad and asks us to mind our manners. Our deeds can be as white as the snow.
Have a very Merry Christmas and give more personal presents by your example. Your friends and family will be proud of you. After all there is much to share at this giving season, and we should start now.

–Carol Ann Garretson

Are You Curious?

Are You Curious?


Are You Curious?

Anne could not decide on what type of Christmas tree she wanted but her daughter Alice knew exactly which tree would be best. Alice wanted a real tree to be planted in the front yard after Christmas. It was getting close to the time to begin their search for that perfect tree and Alice was excited.

There was so much to do around this giving season and many presents to be made and wrapped. Alice went to the closet and reached for her coat, hat and gloves. Her mother was already waiting for her on the porch, as she was putting a wreath on the door that had displayed angels with wands. Alice had helped make the wreath with a great deal of hard work and patience. She wished everyone who entered this door might feel a bit curious upon seeing the angels with the wands. Perhaps, Alice thought, one of the visitors might be granted their seasons wish. It is quite true, Alice had a very vivid imagination, but she also had great love for others even at her young age of five years old.

The door closed behind Alice and she and her mother walked from the sidewalk to the garage. The car was warm from being enclosed and the first flakes of snow had not fallen on it yet. Alice and her mother fastened their seat belts, backed up the car, and entered the main street. Their search would now begin.

There were several tree stands of beautifully displayed fresh bright green trees, but Alice knew they would have to drive almost to the state border to find one for their special needs. She and mother looked at several rows of trees which seemed healthy and strong. Then Alice stopped, for she had selected the very one meant just for them. As she walked closer what did she see, but two trees–almost like a mother and daughter. Alice thought it was just like the two of us–big and little.

Mother listened while the man who owned the Christmas trees explain to them exactly how to preserve both trees and then plant them later. Then they drove back home with their cherished trees just peeking out of the trunk.

This would be the best Christmas ever thought Alice with two trees and one exactly her size. She would make all the ornaments herself out of special paper and trinkets she had saved in her bottom dresser drawer. Alice even made special tree cookies with the help of her mother. Each cookie looked like a little elf.

The time came for the guests to arrive and Alice and mother greeted them at the front door dressed like paper doll figures. Alice looked like a fairy princess, just like out of one of her books, and mother looked like a beautiful queen. They made their costumes out of crepe paper, so they had to be very careful in the way they moved and walked through the house. Their outfits were a big success, as the guests had made their costumes as well.

The evening went by so quickly and the laughter and smiles on the faces of all soon were gone and the house was quite still. It was a wonderful party thought Alice as she tucked into bed that night.

When morning arrived Alice walked out the front door to see the new fallen snow. To her surprise all the angels with their wands were missing from the wreath and in their place were little pink hearts with messages that read; Love, Friendship, Caring, Understanding, Kindness, and Happiness.

You see, six guests were not looking when those angels went home with them that night. They must have jumped onto their coats as they left for their homes. Both Alice and her mother smiled and gave each other a big hug. They did not speak, but are you curious?

Merry Christmas guests and look for those angels. Their wands are filled with surprises.

–Carol Ann Garretson

Santa Claus Does Not Forget

Santa Claus Does Not Forget


Story written by M.A. Haley

Bertie was a very good boy. He was kind, obedient, truthful, and unselfish. He had, however, one great fault,—he always forgot.

No matter how important the errand, his answer always was, “I forgot.” When he was sent with a note to the dress-maker his mother would find the note in his pocket at night. If he was sent to the store in a great hurry, to get something for tea, he would return late, without the article, but with his usual answer.
His father and mother talked the matter over, and decided that something must be done to make the little boy remember.

Christmas was near, and Bertie was busy making out a list of things which Santa Claus was to bring him.
Santa Claus may forget some of those things,” said his mother.
 

“He cannot,” replied Bertie; “for I shall write sled, and skates, and drum, and violin, and all the things on this paper. Then when Santa Claus goes to my stocking he will find the list. He can see it and put the things in as fast as he reads.”

Christmas morning came, and Bertie was up at dawn to see what was in his stocking. His mother kept away from him as long as she could, for she knew what Santa Claus had done.

Finally she heard him coming with slow steps to her room. Slowly he opened the door and came towards her. He held in his hand a list very much longer than the one he had made out. He put it in his mother’s hand, while tears of disappointment fell from his eyes.

“See what Santa Claus left for me; but I think he might have given me one thing besides.”
His mother opened the roll. It was a list of all the errands Bertie had been asked to do for six months. At the end of all was written, in staring capitals, “I FORGOT.”

Bertie wept for an hour. Then his mother told him they were all going to grandpa’s. For the first time he would see a Christmas-tree. Perhaps something might be growing there for him.

It was very strange to Bertie, but on grandpa’s tree he found everything he had written on his list. Was he cured of his bad habit? Not all at once; but when his mother saw that he was particularly heedless she would say, “Remember, Santa Claus does not forget.”

by M.A. Haley

Sunday, December 27, 2009

Lifetime of Discoveries

Thought for the Moment

Make today the best day of your life. Practice kindness toward at least one other person.

 
 We get closer to God as we get more intimately and understandingly acquainted with the things He has created. I know of nothing more inspiring than that of making discoveries for one's self.

~ George Washington Carver (1864-1943)




Lifetime of Discoveries

There are discoveries all around us—small gifts of joy that bring moments of peace and renewal.

Yet it is easy to miss the small things of uncommon value and inspiration—the cycles of life in a thriving forest, the perfection of a brilliant flower, the purposefulness of a delicate butterfly, or the spiritual beauty within another soul.


If we would stop for only a moment to marvel at this blessing of life, we would find many heart-stirring discoveries where we least expect them.


A small shift in the way we view a situation can make a life-changing difference.


A purposeful change in perspective can spark a sense of freedom, spiritual vision, and peace of mind. It can uncover a life purpose that has gone undetected.

It can heal a hurt that has burdened someone for years.


Take time to listen to the emotion in the voice of a friend, feel the warmth of the sunshine, or view the perfect design in the smallest leaf or a cluster of stars.


Become still.
Listen to the voice inside your heart without judging its message.

What does it tell you?


Notice and acknowledge your feelings around any situation that might trouble you.


Then ask yourself, "How could I view this situation differently? What new perspective might turn this into a blessing for me or someone else?"


You will be pleased with the sense of freedom and peace it brings to you.


A lifetime of rewarding discoveries is waiting for all who will stop, look, and listen with faith.
© Copyright by Steve Brunkhorst. All Rights Reserved.

From Achieve! 60-Second Nuggets of Inspiration
http://www.AchieveEzine.com

Saturday, December 26, 2009

Hang Your Heart...

Hang Your Heart
Author: Sue Henley




When the terrible tragedy struck our country, I was so devastated. I wanted to help! I wanted to do something meaningful! I give blood all the time, so it was no real sacrifice to jump on the steps of the bloodmobile this time. 

I have all these nursing skills and thought about driving to New York but, sadly there were not many survivors. I felt lost and I felt useless.
 
A nursing friend called me and told me it was time to head off to the Senior Citizen's and cut their toenails. We started it when we worked at a Home Health Agency as a marketing tool. When the agency shut down I'd see these lively Seniors at Walmart or Kroger's and they would ask when we were coming back. Since I've NEVER learned how to say NO to anyone (let alone someone who needs me)... we started volunteering to go about every other month.
 
I wasn't looking forward to it. Some Seniors are very cranky! Most are loving and kind and so wise. (And they have a hard time bending over.) I walked in the door to the Center, that is located in the back of the little town's City Hall, and they all shouted, "There she is!" Wow... what a greeting! They all had their feet soaking in soapy water (at my insistence... 80 year old hard toenails can put your eyes out!) 

I got out my gloves and the antiseptic and some extra bottles of lotion I'd brought. I literally plopped on the floor in front of the first sweet little lady. They all apologize that we have to sit on the floor.(I think they're afraid they'll have to help us up!) I listened to stories about their children and grandchilden, spouses who have gone and friends that have left our world. I listen to them ooh and ahh when I give them the foot massage after the clipping and I try and make them laugh with stories about my teenager and my husband. 

They all have excellent advice and usually every single one will talk about how bad the world is getting.

This time was a little different. We lightly touched on the tragedy and they brought up Pearl Harbor and how they felt helpless and hurt and scared. I told them I hadn't found a flag yet to put up and how I felt helpless with these feelings of not being able to help.
 

The first lady, whose toes I'd done, was now quilting with a few of the others. She said so sweetly, "Why honey.... you don't need to feel bad and you don't need a flag. You are here helping us and we all notice how you hang your heart so proudly. You come here and put up with us when you could be doing something for yourself. Don't sell yourself short. We love you."
 
This little lady took a hurt spirit and lifted it higher than I'd ever hoped for that day. I got tears in my eyes and went over and hugged her. We hugged each of them before we left and declined the pinto bean lunch they had cooking. Why do we think we have to do things only when bad things happen? Giving is still so much better than getting... any day, any week, any time.
 
The motto at our church is we help the hopeless, the hurting and the hungry. That's something we can all do. 

Pay a little more attention today at the people around you and see if you can help their needs. Hey, take a chance and hang your heart out there!

Friday, December 25, 2009

How Tortoise saved Balode the hunter from death

How Tortoise saved Balode the hunter from death
 by Adelani Aderemi


There was a time when wild animals mixed freely with human beings and spoke clearly. This gave them the opportunity to work with men for mutual benefits. There was an old hunter called Balode. He was very famous for his hunting skills. He had 25 dogs that helped him to hunt game.


Balode was getting old and he tired easily. His family members told him to slow down. His dogs were also becoming weak and were going blind with age. Balode and his dogs could not hunt games as much as he used to do again. He did not like this and he determined to do something about it.


One day, he went into the forest to visit a lioness he had met long time ago. The lioness and her four cubs were just finishing a meal of deer. Balode's mouth began to water as he saw the deer meat but even if the lioness offered him some he could not have eaten because the meat was not cooked. He waited patiently outside the cave for them to finish their meal. Then he politely asked the lioness to come out so they could discuss out of earshot, for such matters as brought him could not be discussed in the presence of the cubs.


Balode told the Lioness that he would like them to become business partners. He wanted the lioness to hunt games for him and he would give the lioness any type of human food she liked. This was good proposal for the lioness, her children loved yoghurt, juice and cheese and she herself loved chicken eggs. She told Balode what quantities of this stuff she would take every week for a daily supply of deer and antelope. Her reply gladdened Balode's heart. He was happy he would be able to provide meat for his family again. They shook hands and Balode turned to go.


One condition, my friend, said the Lioness this friendship will go sour any day I hear you show wickedness to the domestic animals in your house.


Never Balode shook his head. I am a kind man. I have never been wicked to any animal before.


Balode left and the Lioness went back into his cave to break the good news to her children. They were all happy and they sang We are H A P P Y before they slept.


Before ten o'clock the next day, the lioness had killed one antelope and one deer. She packed them neatly in his cave waiting for Balode to show up. It was almost noon before he came. He had a big sack with him full of provisions. The lioness waited outside but the dead animals were still in the cave. She did not trust Balode. Hello my friend, I have been waiting for you. What do you have in the sac?


Your provisions of course Balode answered as he emptied the contents of the sack on the ground near the cave opening. When the lioness saw the yoghurt, fruit juice and the eggs, she was very happy and she dashed inside her cave to carry the two animals. 

They joked for a few minutes before they bid one another goodbye for the day. Their friendship had started well.


In this manner Balode and the Lioness continued to provide for their families and they were happy for a long time. However, Balode's dogs were not enjoying this deal. They could not hunt again and Balode had stopped feeding them. They had to be roaming round the neighborhood to fend for themselves. They had become gaunt and sickly with hunger and lack of care. One night as they huddled together near the fire place, they discussed among themselves. They decided to trace where Balode was getting his meat supply from. So it was arranged that the next day, one of them would follow Balode secretly without being seen. They chose Riro, the youngest among them.


Riro gave Balode about fifteen minutes' gap before he followed. Riro's powerful sense of smell helped him to traced his master to the cave of the lioness. He hid in a nearby bush till Balode returned home with the deer and antelope for the day.


As he was about to return, he was shocked when a fierce lioness grabbed him by the throat. He did not know how and when the lioness got to his back. Tell me what you have come to do here or I kill you now The lioness commanded. With fear, Riro explained everything that had been happening to him and his friends in Balode's house. Surprisingly, lioness was sympathetic. 

She took Riro to her cave fed him with meat and milk and also gave him some meat for his friends at home. Riro rested a while, thanked the lioness and left.


Lioness was not happy with the way Balode had been treating his dogs and she planned to deal with him for this breach of trust. The next day she did not kill any animal but she waited outside his cave as usual. Balode came with the provisions and as soon as he put the sac down, lioness pounced on him. 

Today, you are going to die. You did not follow our agreement. Balode was afraid, for he was not prepared for this attack. But he spoke with courage. My friend, what have I done wrong? He asked. You have been maltreating your dogs, and I warned you.


Balode became really scared for he knew this was true. But how did the lioness know this? He thought of a way of escape quickly Please before you kill me, let's ask for the opinions of three other domestic animals. Whatever they advised shall be binding on us. Lioness was happy with this. Very well then, let's go and speak with them.


Still with her claws on Balode's neck, they headed for the village. The first animal they met was the goat. Hey goat, come and judge this case for us, pleaded Balode and he stated his case. The goat sighed and shouted Is that why you disturbed my lunch? You are a wicked man. I don't like you and other human beings. You don't feed your domestic animals very well. Lioness, please do as you wish with him. The next animal they met was the cat, who also judged same way. Lioness was now getting impatient. Then they met Tortoise and the man stated the case as he did the first two times.


Tortoise had sympathy on him but he did not show it. Hey wicked man, I cannot understand your language. Can you show me the place where you and Lioness made the agreement? The three of them went back to lioness's cave. Now, for me to really understand could the two of you stand at the exact spots you were when you made this agreement? Then Lioness released her paws on Balode and stood at the mouth of her cave, while Balode went to stand apart. This gave Balode the needed chance to draw his pistol. He shot the lioness in the head.


This was how the Tortoise saved Balode from death. That day Balode took tortoise to his house and they have been living together. He started taking good care of his old dogs. He bought younger dogs and with the help of the old Dogs, trained them to hunt games for his family. However, the scars of lioness's marks were still on his cheeks till today and people call them tribal marks.


Thursday, December 24, 2009

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History of Christmas....

Christmas is for joy, for giving and sharing, for laughter, for coming together with family and friends, for tinsel and brightly decorated packages... But mostly, Christmas is for love. It was this love for which Jesus came to this world and sacrificed his life.

Thus Christmas is a celebration of love and mirth symbolized by the Nativity, the Santa, the caribou, the poinsettia and the evergreens. All that bring home the spirit of love and life. And this is the spirit that makes Christmas so popular throughout the world.

Though originated by the Roman Catholics who commemorate the December 25th as the day of birth of Christ Child, it has gradually come to be celebrated by the non-Catholics as well. As far as the United States goes, the celebration of X'mas is comparatively of recent origin. Much of the world was already well into Christmas celebrations by the time the United States began to wake up. In the first half of the 19th century the Sunday schools in America held Christmas celebrations. And the celebration of Christmas in America owes its origin to these schools. Alabama was the first state to grant legal recognition to X-mas in 1836. The DC did it in 1870. By 1893 all the states and territories had made similar acknowledgements.

So be it the United States or in other parts of the world Christmas is celebrated as the commemoration of the birth of Christ Child -- very likely the holiest event ever to take place anywhere on the Earth, and an entirely worthy occasion to celebrate. But don't we often wonder if we've got these things about it right? And why is the difference of opinion (however immaterial) regarding the date of birth? Is it even on the right date?

We bring to you a story of the Birth of Christ Child along and offer you a short tour across the world to know the way Christmas is celebrated in different parts. But before doing this please don't forget to brush up some historical trivia regarding Jesus' birth. Click here to know the answers to some simple yet vulnerable questions.

There are a number of characters and icons associated with Christmas and history of Christmas. Here we give a brief outline of all such Christmas icons:
 
bullet Santa Claus
bullet Xmas Tree or the Christmas tree
bullet Mistletoe
bullet Holly and the Prickly
bullet Glastonbury Thorn
bullet The Poinsettia as the Christmas flower
bullet Rudolf, the red nose Reindeer
bullet The Christmas Star
bullet Christmas Ornaments, Traditions, history and procurement
bullet Christmas elves
bullet Some Light on the Date of Christmas, Jesus, and Christianity
bullet Birth Of Jesus Christ
bullet Tradition of gifts and gifts giving
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The Man Who Couldn't Stay Still

The Man Who Couldn't Stay Still

by John White



Farmer Jones was a good man who lived just outside a small seaport village in New England. Like all New England farmers, he was honest and hard working. Of course, everyone knows New England farmers are the best of all farmers.

But Farmer Jones just couldn't stay still.
Like other farmers, he rose early, plowed his fields, and planted his vegetables. When the harvest season arrived, he and his family picked the vegetables for market. 

The other farmers were very tired after working that hard, but not Farmer Jones. He was always doing something because he couldn't stay still.

Mrs. Jones was happy her husband worked so hard. He finished all his farm work faster than other farmers. But when he was done, he would not rest. He was always moving, always fidgeting.

At night he fidgeted so much that poor Mrs. Jones could not get any sleep. Farmer Jones tossed and turned and fussed and bothered and rolled and bounced all night. Mrs. Jones became so tired, she finally asked Dr. Mandroot to stop by the farm and check Farmer Jones to see why he couldn't stay still.

When Doctor Mandroot arrived, Farmer Jones was washing his cows. When he finished washing his cows, Farmer Jones waxed them. When the cows were nice and shiny, he made wooden signs with the name of each cow on it and hung them around each cow's neck. Then Farmer Jones looked for something else to do.

Dr. Mandroot sat Farmer Jones down long enough to examine him. After the examination, he spoke to poor, tired Mrs. Jones.

"I have seen this before, in animals, Mrs. Jones," the doctor said, putting his instruments into his black bag, "but never in a human. He has unendious fussyitous, an inability to stay still. I've only seen it cured once, and that was on a horse, not a man. In order to cure Farmer Jones we will have to stop all of his fidgeting. The only way that can be done is to sit on him until he is very still."

So the doctor and Mrs. Jones placed Farmer Jones on a small bed of hay and sat on him. Farmer Jones' feet kept moving, so Mrs. Jones had her son and daughter sit on his legs. When his feet, hands, and head continued to move, Mrs. Jones asked a farmhand to go into the village and ask for help.

Soon after, like all good New Englanders, the people of the village left their work to climb the steep road to Farmer Jones' farm to help their neighbor. Each villager climbed over the next and sat on the shoulders of one another until a great pyramid of fine hard working villagers grew high atop poor Farmer Jones. So high, in fact, that they rose above the roof of the barn.

On top of Farmer Jones were the baker, the mayor, the alderman, farriers, fishermen, maids, the librarian, farmers, captains, first mates, shopkeepers, bankers, bartenders, Mr. Wilson, Mr. Wilson's wife, Mr. Wilson's children, Mr. Wilson's dog, Spike, teachers, students, Mary Walker, bricklayers, masons, Sandra Watson, the spinster Miss Mills, carriage men and many others.
The pyramid stood a hundred feet high.

Then the very last person left in the village climbed the mountain of people. Little Virginia Williams stepped over arms and legs all the way to the top of the people pyramid, where she sat on Mr. Lampkin's shoulder, placed her hands on top of his bald head, and then, everything went very quiet. No one made a sound.

Down at the very bottom of the pile, Dr. Mandroot shouted up to little Virginia, "Can you feel anything, Virginia?"

It was a very quiet moment, and then Virginia yelled out, "He's still moving."
Everyone groaned and slowly climbed down one another, and returned to the village.

"I don't understand," said the good doctor. "It worked on the horse. " Mrs. Jones, if he can't be cured, I can only suggest that you use his disease to your advantage."

So later that night, Dr. Mandroot helped Mrs. Jones hook four butter churns to Farmer Jones while he lay in bed. The churns were tied to his arms and legs, and as Farmer Jones tossed and turned and fussed and bothered and rolled and bounced, he also churned butter. He churned so much butter the pretty waxed cows had trouble supplying enough milk.

Mrs. Jones was thrilled. She sold every bit of butter in the market and the Jones family became very wealthy. But Farmer Jones was bored. His farming work all finished, and tubs and tubs of butter churned, he decided to buy a boat and work as a fisherman, because he just couldn't stay still.

He was a great fisherman! He caught more fish than all the other captains. He'd cast his pole and catch fish after fish. When he caught one fish, he'd bait another hook and catch more fish.

He caught codfish, catfish, redfish, grouper, pike, carp, dogfish, blowfish, angelfish, mahi-mahi, shrimp, Lobster, starfish, guppies, dolphins, tuna, shark, surgeonfish, snapper, goatfish, triggerfish, butterfly fish, parrotfish and even the Hawaiian fish, humuhumunukunukuapuaa.

Farmer Jones sold all his fish, and gave the money to his wife, making them richer still, but he was bored again and couldn't stay still.

As he walked home trying to think of something else he could work on, the mayor stopped to talk to him.

"Farmer Jones," the mayor said, "since you have so much energy and can't stay still, I wondered if you could remove all those large rocks from the farmer's plowed land, and build a stone fence around the village hall?"

Farmer Jones smiled at the mayor and agreed to start work right away.
And he did. He built a stone wall four feet high all the way around the village hall. But because he couldn't stay still he kept building more and more wall. First around the village park and then the police station, fire station, livery, stable, bakery, dry goods store, fish pond, butcher's shop, auditorium, library, courthouse, ice cream shop, drug store, hardware store, feed shop, marina, dog kennel, and the barbershop.

He stood back to admire his work, as all good New Englanders do, and then, because he couldn't stay still, he continued building the wall out into the countryside where the farms were. He built up the wall around the Blue's farm, Rose's farm, Green's farm, Black's farm, Brown's farm, his farm, and right up to the Williams' farm where little Virginia Williams saw poor Farmer Jones working so hard, and looking so thirsty. Virginia asked her mother and father if it would be all right to take some tea to poor Farmer Jones.

"Oh what a lovely idea," Mrs. Williams said, and she, her husband and Virginia did just that. Virginia walked up and tapped Farmer Jones on the shoulder to get his attention. Because he was so busy building the wall, he didn't notice the Williams' family behind him with a table, four chairs and tea service.

"Would you like some tea, Mr. Jones?" Virginia asked.

Farmer Jones looked at his wall and then at Virginia and said, "Why yes, thank you very much."

And Farmer Jones sat down at the table with Virginia for tea. When he took a sip of tea, something amazing happened. Farmer Jones, who couldn't stay still, sat perfectly still. His hands were still, his head was still, his feet and legs were still. Even his eyelids were still.

Mr. and Mrs. Williams were so excited to see Farmer Jones sitting perfectly still that they jumped up and ran to the village to tell everyone of the miracle. Soon the whole village surrounded Farmer Jones and watched him sip tea and sit perfectly still.

Dr. Mandroot stepped up to the table to address Farmer Jones.
"Farmer Jones, is it the tea that calmed you down and allowed you to sit perfectly still?"

Farmer Jones placed the tea on the table and said, "Oh yes. Tea always calms me down."

The doctor, now completely flabbergasted asked, "Well sir, why didn't you tell us that in the first place?"
Farmer Jones stood up from the table, perfectly still, and replied. "No one ever asked me."

Well-after that, everyone was happy.
Mrs. Jones was especially happy, because whenever Farmer Jones couldn't stay still, she made him a spot of that wonderful New England tea, because everyone knows the best tea is made in New England.

And every time she did, Farmer Jones stayed perfectly still.